A father’s instinct is to protect, we’ll shirk off common sense when our own are in trouble. This is the one part of fatherhood that’s hard to explain to other guys. Fatherhood turns even cowards and geeks into heroes. I could imagine all I wanted what it was like to be selfless before having kids, but I learned it in a whole new way once marriage and family came along.
I remembered one of my first thoughts when our first baby girl was born 11 years ago. I thought of how it would be a great pleasure to get to die for this kid if the opportunity ever came up. Those aren’t the thoughts of a non-father in general, and it certainly wasn’t my normal thought for how I considered the value of other people. Remember that most of my cultural training was in being submerged in art academia and the business of video games. We worked 18 hours a day on games, games, games and if there was any time left over I painted and had gallery showings. Then came a baby and I was liberated.