After you’re born, marriage is the next biggest transformation to happen in life. By that I mean that there are biological stages one goes through, but you’re still the same person. No big paradigm shift, and that includes if you get a job, finish school or invent something amazing. Nothing kicks over the chess board of your life like getting married. Two people become one. A loner becomes a partner. A promise like no other is made. Marriage isn’t something to fear, I actually fear for people who never mature into it rather than those who go for it even with disastrous results.
The next big transformation is becoming a parent. In my case, I became a father some ten years ago. If marriage is a jump across the river, becoming a father is a jump across the Grand Canyon. When my daughter gasped her first breath I could almost hear a switch flip in me where I went from being a man to being a leader. It’s the greatest change I’ve ever experienced, and I don’t anticipate many more significant paradigm changes outside of death, which is the final exam.
Like marriage, fatherhood was never scary to me. Not being a father became a far bigger threat. When being single is scarier than being married, you’re probably ready for the change. When being childless is scarier than having children you’re probably ready for another change. But that’s where the similarities end, because when you’re ready to die, it probably isn’t your time yet.
Last week Nnewts averaged about 400 visitors a day, with a spike at the Wednesday update being around 1400 unique visitors! That’s double the traffic from the launch just two weeks before.